
Supporting a Loved One through Cancer – A Carer’s Journey
Caring responsibilities and challenges
A man in his early 50s, the primary carer for his wife after she was diagnosed with Stage III ovarian cancer. They lived in a suburban area with access to a regional hospital, but he still had to balance caregiving with his full-time job.
Their two adult children lived in different cities, providing emotional but limited practical support.
Following his wife’s diagnosis,the carer took on multiple roles, including managing appointments, medication, schedules, and household tasks. As her treatment progressed, she experienced severe fatigue, nausea, and emotional distress, requiring additional care.
The carer initially tried to juggle his full-time work with caregiving,but as his wife’s needs increased, he had to reduce his hours.his caused financial strain and added stress. He also struggled with navigating the healthcare system, feeling overwhelmed by medical terminology and treatment decisions.
Emotional and mental health impact
Despite his efforts to stay strong for his wife, the carer found himself experiencing exhaustion, anxiety, and feelings of isolation. He rarely prioritised his own well-being, often skipping meals and social events to ensure he was always available for his wife’s needs.
His mental health declined over time, leading to moments of emotional burnout. He initially resisted seeking support, feeling that his focus should remain solely on his wife. However, after encouragement from our Cancer Nurse Specialist, he joined an online carers’ group where he connected with others facing similar challenges
Reframe support: systems and coping strategies
The Carer found relief in structured support:
- The Cancer Support Manager (CSM) helped the carer access carers’ respite services, allowing him short breaks while trained professionals assisted his wife.
- A virtual support group helped him express his frustrations and learn from others’ experiences.
- The CSM helped the carer seek financial guidance, helping him apply for carer’s benefits to ease financial stress.
- Mindfulness and short walks became small but impactful ways to manage stress.

We care for the carers
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